阿杰哥哥真的放弃了吗???

Ah kiat gor gor 真的生气也放弃了吗？？？

我知道他已经帮了我们很多很多，他们一家人都很好。。已经为我们做了很多很多!!!也就是因为有他们的帮忙，我才能放心地做我的东西，从来不担心爸爸!!他们顾及我的感受，也看着我经济的可许，帮我顶了很多很多。。从我refinance 我家的那一刻起，杰哥哥奇怪为何我还不婚，要我安心地筹备婚礼，帮我继续供屋，也出了myvi 给爸爸，每星期给爸爸的零用钱，credit card 打油，auto top up touch n go, 叫我无需担心爸爸，要我顾好妈妈就可以，真的是让我放下心中的大石头。但是我那老爸就是得寸进吃，当他们是摇钱树，喜欢就拿钱，毫无节制。。还赌，虽然杰哥哥说他都老了，要他改也难，就任他赌吧。。。但老爸就赌大，还借了大耳隆。杰哥哥一而再，再而三地帮他还债，还是一样。

现在的姑姑，杰哥哥，放弃了，"说我就当没这个弟弟，，", "若他再犯，我就不叫他舅舅"。我很难过。他们真的不理会我们了吗？？？虽然我不想站他们便宜，但我很渴望他们的亲情，我希望得到他们的关怀。

爸爸，你就醒醒。。别再惹祸了！！我知道杰哥哥他们这样做都是为了我们好。。就好像人家说的“给你鱼吃，倒不如教你钓鱼。。”虽然你以前帮了他们很多，但倒回来他们也帮了我们很多。。别以为你背后有个大老板就可以不像样！！他们几兄弟都是脚踏实地，慢慢地建立起今天的一切。

他们可以说，不理你。。不认你，我可以吗？我有选择吗？？就好像姑姑告诉我杰哥哥告诉你的一番话‘你的女儿现在也大了，嫁人了。。若嫁个像你这样的丈夫，怎样呢？？’ 你过后就是默默地离去，杰哥哥就忙着他的工作去了。你很清楚的知道，我那个夫家是个怎样的家，我那丈夫多久才来看宝宝一次。。我也很多次的告诉你：若我这个家都不能回，我要回那里？！？！ 你告诉我吧！！！

你曾经因为欠债（我不懂是不是我的无知向你要full payment for  my college fees，而你到处找钱），而被大耳窿差点切断拇指眼睛也黑青得很严重，看了当时的你，我真的很怕。。 第二次，便宜卖掉 61 Lebuh Palas,妈妈也为了保护着我们现在住的家，到处找办法。。我也就这样refinance 买回来你的部分。。我真的很累！！我还有很长的路要走。。

** 与杰哥哥的谈话记录**

Apr'14
 Hmm.. dunno wat wrong with my dad.. told him that ur mom called many times, but he no answer n ur mom upset.. he answered me yalorr.. n yday night he off his phone, guess scare ur mom call

N he look worrying.. i asked abt his car, he also say soon..

Hmm.. wonder if u ask him, he wil tell u or not

Alright... Will call him after my meeting...

thanks

Hi.. actually do u know wat wrong with dad's car??

I really don't know, he said nothing happen

hmm.. okay

Jun'14

 just now few indian guys came for debt collection, i overheard their conversation n said abt two years aldy... aizzz.. then i asked dad.who r they, he said someone pass to them to 收账。

Then he called their boss

Everyday reading newspaper n watch news... yet not scare, somemore recently those debt collectors can do anything, even bb

I don't what can I do anymore, his car just taken away by debtor.... Every time I just settle all his shit... I already told him I won't clear his debt anymore last week... I will only give him 400 every week.... God can only help those who help themselves...

Last week he came to see u for this ??

He said he wants to move out from ur house... I told him I won't care... Then he just left....

Aizzz... ya larrr, he is also under pressure. My mom is somehow having depression, keep scolding n scolding at home...

This is dunno wat typw of home

Thats oso the reason y, til now my 82 yo grandma stil come over every weekend to help up... n somehow like a counselor, a middleman

As I told u, everybody also has their own problem... Financial, health, emotion, career, relationship and etc... We have to learn how to deal with it...

Now my only focus is only bbs.. like u said everyone have their own bible .. til now we stil cant go back to hb's hse.. i cant manage bbs alone, n they r not helping.. n yet earlier hb released pressure, anger on bbs.. treated them roughly

N lucky that, hv my parents help up a lot.. but of cause come in a package, argument.. nag.. quarrel, blackface all te

But, this is the only place i can go or stay..

See no monkeyw, hear no monkeys, talk no monkeys

你们真的不要理他了???

I will only give 400 to him every week.... We also have our own family to take care... He is adult, not a kid... Countless chance had given to him... I think this is the life he wants... Nobody can help him except himself...

nobody owes him...

I HATE gambler..... I will not pay him even a single cents if he gamble again...

I hate tooo.. but i.dun hv other choice.. i cant.choose who to b my parents..

Can u lend me money ??

Or i selff half of my house to u ??

I don want sell to other ppls

I really hate this type of life

I hate being threatened .. i dunwan live in fear, hb threaten wanna take bbs away from me if i complaint he nv come yo help up.. bbs spend more, bising...

I hv no choice, i hv to depends yo my parents take care of them.. i dun want to split them to diff bb sitter

If i m alonr, no bbs n if i can let go all these.. i shd hv left this place for long.. is not that i never runaway from home

I think u should ask ur husband to do something... He is the one should take care of u and ur babies.... Furthermore, the house belongs to ur father, u can't just sell their house and dump ur parents then start ur own new life... Although I'm rich, I won't help poor, I'll only help those in REAL URGENT.....

U and ur husband should feel grateful, because u guys no need to pay for house, no need to pay for ur parents...

Please tell ur husband be mature and be RESPONSIBLE, as a man... How rich u can be is dependent on how heavy the responsibility u can take! Both of u are in good health, young, educated and not handicap....

Try ur best!

Forget abt my hb, i m somehow a single mom here... is not that i nv speak up, i even called for a family meeting talked to his mom n bro, ends up i looked like a fool. To b frank,i gaf up !! N is not that i wan to tell u all these to get ur sympathy..

My dad no longer this hse owner, he lost his shared in gambler too.. i refinanced to buy over his share from buaya.darat

last.thing.. Can u lend me 20k ??

I m not trying to take advantage.from ur rich.. u know, so far.. i wil nv speak up, nv ask for more

But now.. i hv no choicr, i hv to tear of my face n ask for money

Just bcoz of my childish parents

I neef to solve this.. in order to maintaim this family .. alto in actual facr, it is a broken family

家丑不外谣

Nvm... i find other solution.. thankw

I'm in new zealand now, will be back next mon, can I bank in the 20k for u next week? If really can't wait, u take from my mom first ok?

Thanks.. wait for u monday... later wil plan out how to repay u

Is ok, settle ur thing first

This time i really can see hia regreted face

hopefully

Hi, for the 20k... i may not need to borrow from u first... wee chiat wil nego with them.. thanks for ur reconsideration. If i really shortage n no choice i hv to borrow, i wil let u know, may b 20th

Anyway, i m planning for bbs 1 yr old celebration this mth end. Pls bear with me n dun get me wrong.. i precious family gathering, especially after this yr cny, all relatives gathered aty place, i wish not to reunion during cny or wedding or worst case in funeral.

Hb not so agreed with this celebration,.n wanted me to celebrate with immediate family, get a table tats it. But i wish to share with all my bros sis (cousins). This is my long planned gathering cum celebration.. hope dun let my dad's incident turn u guys down (not much ppls know abt it)

I m listening.. i m listening.. i stil remember well wat u told me years ago.. our parents dun managed well, when come to our generation , we shd work extra miles.. i m !! 我已经很脚踏实地好好地做。

Seeing all of u so success, regardlesd how hardworking am i, i stil earning peanut, with 3-5%increament. I dunno wat went wrong, thats y 3 years back i looked for FOO n shown him my financial status, hope to get some financial advice. My commitment is high, it is almost 40% of my income, it seemd a lot.. bcoz of my propotion. The only way is i increase my value..

I enrolled in UTAR degree program for a yr, then stop due to pregnancy. Jan, i wanted to resume again, but too bad, alto i only taken 1 subj this time (last time 4-5 subjs), but i cant cope.. i couldnt complete a trimester, n i hv to quit.

I already try my very best, but my capabilities r limited. I m not handicap nor non-educated. I m the only bread maker in the family, unlike others hv siblings to discuss, to share responsibility..

When i comparing myself to my frens, they r driving teana, civic, peageot, jazz n etc... n can buy 700-800k hse, buy branded n go holidays regularly n etc. But i can only afford myvi. It really a sour feeling.. I know my ability n my responsibility.. unlike their earning is nett nett, self earn self spend, i admit n accept my faith 比上不足,比下有余。

or else, wat can i do ??

this is life.... Take care, just let me know when u need the 20k... Tell ur father, this is the last.... I won't call him ah ku anymore if happen again....